This person understands my aversion to IM, Skype, facebook, etc etc. uh and Twitter? Que es eso?
"However, when it comes to the flip side - posting my own stuff on Twitter - my introverted nature causes problems again. For one thing, being the inward-focused type that I am, the very thought of constantly telling the world what I'm thinking or doing makes me tired and gives me the vague sense of not having enough solitude and privacy.
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You'll recall that introverts like to choose their words carefully and deliberately, and so for me, even a one- or two-sentence tweet requires thought and consideration. That ends up being another task on my already full schedule, so it happens infrequently."
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uh, i'm the same way. why the hell do you think my myspace is a kung fu hamster? duh.
i just like being in contact with old friends, and finding more of my old friends. that's what i mostly have it for. i don't sit there and reveal every little thing i'm doing or thinking or saying every second in my status, etc. seriously. that's not intro- or extroversion. that's just self-absorption.
i love my friends. i like being able to be in some sort of contact with people that i don't have the time or energy to email regularly, but i still can see that they're doing well. i have gotten back in touch with a number of people i really was happy to find. i even have a few friends that i met only briefly once or twice, but became better friends with through conversing on these silly friend networks. a few of them i even now hang out with somewhat regularly and consider close friends. so, snub snub, it's not all bad or about selling oneself. for me its about the facility of being in touch with people i actually like.
and while friends do indeed come and go, even the ones i don't communicate with regularly but see on facebook or myspace bring back memories of so many different parts of my life. sometimes it's nice to forget the past, but i have friends from many different eras that remind me of things i had forgotten. it makes my life seem more complete, like i'm 30 and i actually have lived, and i remember things about people and places.
rather than that i'm just 30 but remember nothing except the currently sometimes overwhelming stress of grad school and all its nuances.
aw shit, now i'm almost 31.
I took the point as being more the emotional and mental drain of being expected to constantly interact with people especially by cell phone, on chats, or skype or twitter, now that I know what that is, or even email, not the amount of information posted.
There is no such thing as alone time anymore, because if you ignore the ever constant messages people start going "where are you, why are you ignoring me, don't you love me anymore?!?"
I'm still not particularly impressed with facebook, which is why all the emails related to it just get sent to the junk folder in my junk spam catcher email account. Maybe it will be useful 15 years from now, but at the moment there's no one on there that I expect to want to talk to that I don't primarily contact in other ways. In reality I find it highly unlikely that I'll continue to check facebook more than a year or two from now.
i spend most of my time alone. so apparently people like you more than me because people rarely harass me with emails or phone calls.
I consider myself an introvert, but I have no problem with IM. And it is precisely for one of the qualities that he says is a classic introvert trait - that of carefully composing thoughts before sharing. I would much prefer to be on IM than to be on the phone, because while I'm writing I can change the words and think about things before sending them, while on a phone that would lead to awkward pauses. Not to mention there's no delete for dumb things you've said on the phone.
However I do not share his major beef with IM and twitter (and I'm still not entirely sure I know what twitter IS) - I don't find IM to be an intrusion or disrupt my thoughts. Maybe it's because I'm online less frequently (typically only at night when I'm at home) or because the only people who generally IM me are ones that I'd drop nearly anything (when I'm on) to chat with.
I don't, though, tend to announce to the world what I'm up to at any given moment. On facebook I haven't filled in the "what are you doing right now" little headline thing. I don't see the point.
If I rank them in order of most annoying to most prefered mode of contact it goes: phone (especially cell), IM, email, in person. The problem with IM is that you have to respond right away, if I don't answer people on IM, they assume I'm not at my computer and likely if I decide to respond 30 min later, they won't be on anymore, whereas email at least I can see that I have one, finish what I was concentrating on, and then respond, and have back and forth conversation at convenient break points all through the day. If I'm simply at my computer wasting time then I don't mind chatting with someone, but I really really hate cell phones, which is why my ringer is nearly always off, and I don't carry it on me unless I am expecting a phone call. If it's important they can leave a message. I don't really know why I waste $50/month to use 30 minutes of talk time, other than that was the lowest plan they offered.
Sadly, in person interactions are far far too rare, and they're the only ones I actually find enjoyable. A little too expensive to fly home just for a quick coffee and chat with someone though ;)
my phone is also always on silent unless i'm expecting a phone call. i am for the most part never logged into IM unless i am specifically looking for someone. mainly because i don't like to be that available.
email is good for me.
in person i do most effectively, or email i guess.
cell phones are too expensive but also are convenient.
i still don't know what twitter is.
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